4 December 2009, 1.30 pm.
Salam..
What is friendship to all of you guys? Is it only relevant at certain time and place?
What makes people are so easy to relate and others are so difficult? Sometimes it's really hard to make a person to feel and understand what we want.
If you live with your friends or maybe acquaintances, then I'm pretty sure you all understand the predicament.
I have a story..
One day, on 6.00 pm, it's just after Maghrib time..
"Wei, jom ar tolong aku masak. Manjang aku je masak. Korang nak makan ke tak ni? Cepat la wei.. Korang ni apsal ar? Ada problem bagitau.." Mr A said while knocking his friends rooms' door. No reply.. he continued doing so.
"Aku tengah skype ngan mak aku ar! Tak yah la kacau. F**k ar!" suddenly heard a voice from Mr B's room. Mr B is currently mad. He can't stand with the loud noise. Mr A was pissed.
"Alahai.. nak claim ar tu. Masak pon nak berkira.. Aku bukannye tak penah masak pon." replied Mr C from his room. Mr C was playing PES, ignoring what is happening in the house.
Later, here came Mr D who had just finished his lecture at the university which is located approximately 40 minutes from their house, tired and hungry.
"Adoooih.. lapar-lapar. Korang tak masak-masak lagi ke? Ish, harap balik je awal. Bukannye nak tolong-tolong masak dulu. Ni pegi main bola. Sekarang baru nak masak lambat la.. Kalo da terer sangat pegi join team jamiah nu.." said Mr D innocently, half angry but tried to control.
Opppss... wrong timing Mr D.
.....::you know what'll happen after that::.....
*this story is base on writer's idea. if any similar incident occur to your life it's just a cliché. hehe..
problems are salt and sugar in friendship. i mean "asam garam"..tol ke?
People are varies..
Well, the incident in the story quiet obvious happen when we don't get what we want. Especially, when dealing with people.
My friends,
Don't expect everyone to be perfect. Various type of person are there around us. They have their own behaviour and attitude. Such as who is;
1.
Controls everything - this person has the highest concern among his friends. He maybe wants to get everything he asks, help or something including by force if in urgent. Why?
Because he feel responsible in setting up everything. It's good but sometimes makes people uneasy. Mr A in the story reflects this person.
2.
Screws up everything - this person may become a big wall to everything in plan. He may rejects everything when doing his job. Maybe because he's a committed person. Just the way he do it is a little harsh, may too rude sometimes depends on mood.
Lack of social attention from friends could lead to this. He may eat up two whole rice cooker for example when his stress come. Pity on him.. Mr B reflects this person.
3.
Ignores everything - he
likes to enjoy his activities. Sometimes he abandoned community. When asked to do something, he may do it in order to get the task done only. He must be stimulated to get his help in doing something. He may goes to travel by himself alone to sea or city without anyone accompanied, just for his satisfaction. Mr C reflects this person.
4.
Knows everything - whether he really know-it-all or pretending to know-it-all, this person try his best to set up everything on his calculation. He can really make friend with everyone including seniors even outsiders, but sometimes there is a hole in his calculation that makes his plan goes wrong for example timing or place. Mr D reflects this person.
See, friends..
People are varies. We can't treat them the same. Especially when it comes to our own friends. Sometimes, feel awkward to tell their mistakes. Sometimes, feel that it will ruin our relationship.
So, despite commenting on their bad attitude instantly, why don't we bring out the best in him? I think.. It's more effective and Insha Allah he will change the attitude himself.
friends share their feelings.
Solution..
Uniting together with friends aren't easy sometimes. Some people do it with hypocrite for the benefit from his partner. That's why they lastly can't stand each other despite they once stand together.
"O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error. The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do." [5:105]
Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said:
"The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."
Despite saying, "That's the problem with you. You always..."
learn to say, "That's not like you! You're capable or..."
and describe how we want the people to be, as if he or she already were. hehe..
It's true, impossible to make everybody satisfy with you. But, not impossible to make anybody as much as you can to satisfy with you. Well you see, if there is bunch of people unsatisfied, does it mean we have to backtrack our recent behaviour or attitude, right? People say what they see real.
Sometimes, we have to give up something to gain up everything. If friendship is everything for you, then give up your something sometimes which is your ego.
Wallahua'lam.. Wassalam.
